Are you hurt or angry by the way a friend treated you in the past?
Are you frustrated that your relationship didn't work out as you hoped it would?
Are you resentful towards your sibling for an action that hurt you deeply?
All of these unresolved emotions are acting as stressors to your body. It's a choice whether we hang on to this all emotional baggage.
It has been proven that after 10 consecutive days of meditation (even just for 10 minutes a day) improves your mood, stress levels, cognitive processing, short term memory, sustained attention and long term memory efficiency.
In my experience, meditation is a tool to rise above some of the bullsh*t our minds trick us into believing is important and needs immediate attention or emotional response. The purpose of meditation is not to clear your mind completely... well maybe for the Zen Masters but we are a little way off that.
The purpose of sitting quietly for a sustained period of time is to gently redirect your focus back to your breath each time a thought or feeling rises up. Eventually this will train you to detach from negative thoughts or feelings. You will still have them of course (you are human) although you will no longer be swept away by them. Instead, you can be the witness, watching them come and go like the ocean waves crashing on the sand.
The most unhealthy thing you can do is bottle away your feelings in a "safe" place so that no one else is burdened by your emotions. Suppression only leads to some form of angry release later down the track.
It is important to let yourself feel and express your emotions whenever they come up. Talk to someone about it, or better yet, talk to whoever it is that is causing the emotion. If you are not quite ready to speak to anyone else, then write a letter to someone expressing everything you are feeling and why you feel this way.
Light a candle, tell the person that you release all anger over what happened and that you are ready to let go. Burn the letter. This is a beautiful way of releasing your emotions.
If you ever have the urge to cry, it is so important you let yourself cry! Never hold it in as this will only lead to more suppressed anger.
If you have a lot of excess anger and don't know what to do with it, I highly recommend kickboxing. It's an awesome workout, requires no coordination whatsoever and it releases a lot of tension. You'll also be releasing some pretty crazy endorphins post-workout leaving you in a bliss state.
Sending love and blessings to your ex boyfriend or ex best friend may seem a little cray cray... but trust me this is the best thing you can do to release unresolved emotions and move on with your life. It brings your into your heart centre which releases all kinds of amazing endorphins and chemicals in your body which aid healing of the body and the mind.
Try out this little love blessing.
Close your eyes and focus on your breath. Bring the person who you need to send love and forgiveness to into your minds eye. Say this little prayer 3-10 times or until you feel complete.
May you be happy.
May you be with good health.
May you be free from suffering.
May you be with peace.
Say this with as much sincerity as you possibly can. Really feel into what it feels like to forgive this person and how it feels to no longer carry this emotional burden with you. You should start feeling some energy moving around your heart space or perhaps throughout your whole body. It should feel really good. Once you feel this, you know you've gained all the benefits of the blessing.
Blessings are powerful as they don't just work on the person whom you are sending the blessing to. They are powerful medicine for your own body and mind.
Give these steps a go and leave a comment if you have any questions. See the video blog on this topic for more info.
Remember, nothing is worth sacrificing your own health and happiness.
It's time to release your old emotional patterns to make room for MUCH better things!